Stop for a minute and answer a few questions
A large percentage of communication and how people perceive you comes from body language. This includes posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact. Your body language reveals your true feelings.
The same can be said about stepping into that important interview. Despite having a few jitters, or not feeling you are on top of your game, it's important to be in control of the impression you make. Your body language can tell more about your ability to do the job, than your verbal answers. Using appropriate signals, you will receive positive feedback and regain your confidence.
How do you send these all important messages to your brain?
1. Smile more.
Smiling makes you more inviting and trustworthy. It also improves your health and your self-confidence. Smiling slows the heart, relaxes the body, and it releases endorphins that diminish stress. It also has been shown to increase your productivity while performing tasks. According to several studies, smiling tricks your brain into feeling happy, even when you may not feel that way.
2. Pay attention to posture.
Posture indicates our confidence level. Sitting hunched forward, or lounging back can make you seem too casual and unfocused. Moving around and fidgeting is a sign of boredom, impatience, and intolerance.
Notice your posture if you are at work now. Are you slumped in your chair with your back bent, neck forward, and shoulders hunched? Practice sitting and standing with correct posture. If a supervisor was walking by would they be impressed?
3. Be aware your arms and legs
Even at your desk or in a meeting, crossing your arms across your chest suggests you feel defensive, self-protective, and closed off. Crossing your legs away from another person can suggest you dislike them or feel discomfort. So whether in a social situation, at work, or in that interview remember to start practicing behavior that gives a positive impression.
There other negative behaviors to be aware of. If you are fidgeting, twirling your hair, shaking your foot, or biting your nails. It is an obvious sign of anxiety and nervousness. Avoid touching your face or neck which also indicates you feel anxious. Fidgeting sends the message loud and clear that you aren't self-assured.
4. Have a strong handshake.
A firm, solid handshake is a universal sign of confidence, and everyone, and young people should have one. It is a sign of mutual respect from both parties and makes a great first impression. A sweaty, limp, “dead fish” handshake has the opposite effect.
5. Practice appropriate eye contact.
Eye contact suggests you're truthful, engaging, and approachable. It imparts a sense of intimacy and confidence to your interactions and makes the other person feel more positive and connected to you. However, too much eye contact can send the signal you're aggressive or maybe even a little strange if it seems you are starring.
Remember, confidence in your body language at work, in social situations or in that dreaded interview transmits confidence. These basic body language tips can help you to succeed in multiple professional, as well as personal situations.
Smile – When you wake up in the morning, stand in front of your mirror and smile at yourself.
Handshake – Make sure your palms are dry during the handshake and be firm and confident.
Posture – Sit tall and avoid crossing your arms.
Eye contact – Look in the eye-nose triangle for the majority of the time.
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