Some jobs are known for being highly sought after, but they might be difficult to obtain because of a low turnover rate. Other jobs are the completely opposite. They are stressful and top performers like you often feel undervalued by your boss and are considering quitting to go to a better place.

The majority of jobs, however lie somewhere between the two extremes. They’re not the worst places to work, but they’re not the best, either. And this may not be the right time in your life to change jobs- pregnant, spouse out of work, etc. So let’s go over what needs to be your thought process before you decide to leave your job.

It is important to really look at why you are ready to leave and what you need to do before you go. Is it your boss and not your employer or industry? According to a report by Forbes, “top performers quit their bosses more than their jobs,” and they do so for a few of these reasons:

A top performer becomes overloaded with too many responsibilities. This could be because of staffing shortages or additional production needs. And after production needs slow down, the boss doesn’t redistribute work accordingly. The top performer ends up receiving more work, as opposed to higher-level work.

A top performer is micromanaged. Micro-managers lack personal leadership and are bad news for business and bad news for employees. They dis-empower staff, and tend to stifle opportunity and innovation. This often results in the poor performance of some of a company’s best employees. They might feel as though their balloon has been deflated.

The boss picks favorites to give undeserved accolades, or promotions to favorite employees. Maybe it’s because this person doesn’t really click with the high-performing worker, or perhaps it’s because he or she is simply not in touch with where the talent really lies.

What do you do if you find yourself in a position like this? How do you learn to like your boss and still respect yourself? How to make the right decision? Begin focusing on what you want instead of how much you want to escape.

1. Create an image that describes you in your job. Do you feel like you are you on a riverbank with no way to get to the other side? When you get comfortable with the image, begin visualizing a change in the obstacle. Imagine building a bridge across that river. Don’t force the image or the change. When you’re ready it will come.

Think of developing your skills, not serving time in your position. Take every course that’s offered to better develop your skills and focus on those skills that can lay a foundation for your own business or next job. Make yourself even more attractive to employers when you begin interviewing. ?

Put on your shield and armor when you enter your workplace. Everyone should learn how to create a psychic shield. Imagine that you are surrounded by an outer shell that is made of a solid material — so strong that nothing can get through to hurt you. Take two or three minutes to put on your shield, every day, before you enter the workplace.

Give yourself a gift every day: a splurge of time or sensual taste buds. Read a book, talk to a friend, eat your favorite food. Think simple. ?

Appreciate as much as possible about your job: the money, the view from the window, the new computer, friendly conversations with the guy down the hall. Savor the experience. Appreciation is the engine that attracts good things into your life. ?

Tune in to your intuition before deciding what to do next. Have that “radar” on and listen to the world around you. The saying "frying pan into the fire" is real. If your goals and desires do not come from a secure place within yourself, you will find yourself paying undue attention to wet blankets ("If you quit you’ll never get another job") and false friends ("Just quit! Move to Tahiti! You won’t starve!"). Sometimes the same "advisor" even proposes both ideas in the same week. Research will give you confidence in your own intuition to make the right decision for you. ?

Next week we will talk about if the boss is someone you respect is it the industry or the company that is the stumbling block for you? Your nest steps are very different for each of those challenges.

You may be surprised to find out just how many workers quit their jobs each month. As referenced in my book ‘Job Won’, change can be good for you, but be prepared, focus on the positive, get your physical and mental health in order and don’t forget to look over your finances. Then, hone your skills and know what you want before you choose to leave.

Categories: Job Tips with Phil Blair